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Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash It was my friend's birthday and I can remember vividly that I didn't know what to wear even few hours to the time of his birthday party. I was chocked up with work and assignments. Like I said in a previous post [ here ], a true friend shows exceptional love which makes them go extra miles for you. I had to make sure I showed up for my very dear friend and pal, Prince Olugold . I must say that Olugold is a fantastic host, I was impressed. It took me to Iyabo Ojo's hosting on an episode of RHOLagos available on Showmax .  The tips I'd be giving today would be based on how the birthday party went from my point of view, both bad and good, so it's basically storytelling in form of narration. At the end there would be a "Random Gist Segment": Narration without specific title. What Should You Do? Show Up for Them:   Why wouldn't you show up! You are supposed to be a friend!! Olugold's party was lit and that was because ...

This would be a short summary of my friendship. My criteria for choice of friends may differ from yours, but they all revolve around the same thing which is who we are. I don't know about you, but I can't just call a person my friend after the first day we meet; there has to be a concrete foundation before the word 'friend' can be his/her adjective. I wouldn't talk about how I choose my friends now, but for that [ click here ]. I would only talk about my personal experience in friendship and I'd focus on a particular clique from my secondary school and we still exist. Meet us First First I would start by introducing what I'd describe as a personality check [*names are fictional but identities are true]. Jephen was best at keeping malice and he even boasted about it once or twice, how ridiculous and hilarious. Nmakiro was gentle, but his gentility faded away and it could have been a smart camouflage from the onset, who knows? He became the baddest after Jep...

A true friend is hard to get so we may question the state of our relationship with friends. Detecting true friendship is probably one of the most difficult things to get right. But it is not impossible. At least not if you adhere to the tips in this blog post. You would also know whether you are a true friend or a mere company. Photo by Felix Rostig on Unsplash True friendship is a relationship built on the foundation of mutual respect, love, and gratitude; it is 'you and a partner (not necessarily intimate) who exhibits':- Sincerity on Every Occasion Dishonesty on its own is a reprimanded attribute anywhere and every time, how much more in friendship. True friends would tell you the truth always; the best they should do is sugarcoat it so it doesn't sound offensive, but not in every case. Their opinions, thoughts, and suggestions must be genuine and from the heart. Trust me when I say you want to see the end, you wouldn't expect the twist.   Respect For You and Your C...

Photo credit- Anton Vierietin To be honest, there are times we just need everyone's attention on us. Whether we just got new clothes, have a crush and want them to notice us, or maybe you spent hours on your makeup and you need complements, the list is endless. I'd give a personal illustration at the end of this. Let's dig in, shall we? Be Unique: I mean, that's the whole point. Show yourself for what you are because that is something no one else can, not a single person amongst the billions in the world. Have a Signature: Finding your signature may be the difficult, but, all you need to do is relax your body and let your mind do the thinking. It could be your style, approach, scent, etc. Remember Penelop Featherington in Bridgerton ? Trust me you could never miss her with her different shades of yellow. Look Elegant: You should never undermine your look. Mind you, elegance doesn't have to be extravagant. Be Observant: You must know where you are and the people aro...

Photo by Wasa Crispbread on Unsplash To a degree I'm skeptical about friendships, heartbreaks are real! Before I call someone my friend , there must have been deliberations by my brain cells and they must have seen the person fit. Yours doesn't have to be the same, however, reading this should reduce the risks you'd have of disappointments in any kind of relationship.  How I Choose my Friends- My Values Remain Unshaken:  The moment my values begin to repel you friendship is out of the question. I wouldn't throw away my values in the name of friendship. Some may call it pride; I'd rather be proud. Quick Character Study: If I notice you are not ready to change, you cannot move at my pace, you do things I can't live with (morally), friendship is unworkable. Ensure they are not Parasites: Parasitism is a very big red flag and I don't stay where any reddish flag casts shadow how much more... Friendship should go both ways, give and take policy. Determine What I...

  It is possible! Is Nigeria a Place of Achievement? The economy of Nigeria presently creates a big room for concern. From ASUU strike to the ever growing issue of unemployment. People may say Nigeria has literally become a dead end to achievements; I also accepted this until I began to make a lot weekly (When I started). The truth is that Nigeria would scarcely give room for your achievement- you have to create a room for yourself. Picture yourself trying to get groundnut(peanut) out of a bottle. At first all the groundnuts(peanuts) would move towards the bottleneck to come out, few may, but the others get stuck and you have to reshuffle. Nigeria is the large bottle and we (you and me) are the peanuts [don't get offended by the simile]. You probably just want me to say how I achieved my goals, we have gotten to that junction. Determine Your Goal This is were you tell yourself that you want to make it. After coming to the realization that you don't want to be in the same plac...