Who is a Friend: How to Know a True Friend
A true friend is hard to get so we may question the state of our relationship with friends. Detecting true friendship is probably one of the most difficult things to get right. But it is not impossible. At least not if you adhere to the tips in this blog post. You would also know whether you are a true friend or a mere company.
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True friendship is a relationship built on the foundation of mutual respect, love, and gratitude; it is 'you and a partner (not necessarily intimate) who exhibits':-
Sincerity on Every Occasion
Dishonesty on its own is a reprimanded attribute anywhere and every time, how much more in friendship. True friends would tell you the truth always; the best they should do is sugarcoat it so it doesn't sound offensive, but not in every case. Their opinions, thoughts, and suggestions must be genuine and from the heart.
Trust me when I say you want to see the end, you wouldn't expect the twist.
Respect For You and Your Choices
There must be reciprocated respect in any relationship. From your decisions to privacy, and sentiments. But, this true friend must be sincere always, therefore, it is his/her duty to stop you from doing wrong and correct you when you have done wrong. Believing you are a good friend, you should not take offense but liaise with him/her.
True friendship is always both ways. You may have realized that already.
Exceptional Love for You and Yours
Emphasis on 'exceptional'. The special love you share with that friend is what makes the relationship true. A friend who would always go to extra lengths for you and things concerning you is most likely a true friend. It is left for you to discern whether it is just for their own gain based on the other attributes listed in this blog.
True friendship cannot exist without true love.
Need for You by Inclusion
If him/her always excludes you from the fun stuff, that is a massive world-sized red flag. "Why would you be my true friend and do lots of things without me?". If they can't include you, then you may just be a company or a puppet friend. BEWARE!
However, ask yourself if you include them.
Encouragement When You Want to Quit
To a degree, friends act like a backbone when times are tough. It is typical of a true friend to push you to continue and persevere- it is an ability every friend, partner or spouse must possess.
A true friend's encouragement doesn't have to be all pushy-pushy, it can be in various fun ways.
Forgiveness When There's Disagreement
There would be disagreements. Saying there can't be or would never be is unrealistic, but, forgiving one another is where friendship comes to play. Not only disagreement but also fights. The fight may be because your trust was broken, however, true friendship entails forgiveness. Giving them complete trust may not be wise at this point.
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If you liked this, you should see How I Choose My Friends for some healthy and entertaining tips.
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