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After reading a post from this blog about Healthy Friendships and Relationships , I decided to share my story. My name is Jumoke! This is my life in words. Photo by Stormseeker on Unsplash   LOVE OR NOT? I grew up in a home without love This won't be my portion, I swore My  mother was always broken and shattered She cried and suffered- that is all I can remember I promised to never fall in love So my heart would never be torn My mistake was to think it didn't matter as I got older He came into my life when I lacked a friend and partner I forgot my childhood take on love In ignorance, I gave it a chance, and what? My fear became reality with tears and scars The dotting young man became a dictator and heartless ruler I had made a mistake by considering love! This was her mistake, my mom My life was the epitome of my mother's She had endured life to protect her only daughter I failed her! I failed her!! I thought. What if my mistake wasn't loving? What if it was a mistake...

An Overview of Platonic Friendship: Photo by Matt Nelson on Unsplash . "We are platonic friends, but she's not giving me sex!"... You need this!! Everyone needs this. Platonic friendship comes with several misconceptions and many theories about what it is. It can be tasking to maintain because feelings may set in. I got you. We all have friends we love and play with intimately but never think of dating. Do you? (Let me know in the comments). In this post, I talk about the meaning and examples of platonic friendship, what it entails, and popular misconceptions. What is Platonic Friendship? Image by Congerdesign on Pixabay Platonic friendship is a relationship between two people with a deep connection who are attracted to each other. It is intimate but not sexual. The bond feels like romance but without sexual interest. In a platonic relationship, there is usually a high level of trust, mutual vulnerability, and reciprocated time and affection. At some point, either party...

A unique attribute of friendship and relationship generally is that there's continual growth. In this process parties involved would get to know one another better and build a more concrete chemistry. Are you wondering how to go about these? We got you covered. Background image by Jacoblund (iStock) 200 Questions to Ask For Improved Friendship/Relationship 1. Would you change yourself if you could? 2. How would you frankly describe the opposite gender? 3. I hope you know I'm always here for you? (could be rhetorical) 4. Do you think we would always be friends? 5. Which dream do you wish could come through? 6. What can you eat for the rest of your life without getting tired? 7. Which kind of movies do you like? 8. Which would you choose: Love or Money? 9. What is the worst nickname you've ever been given and why? 10. Is there a time you thought I went too far? 11. Have you ever stalked a crush? 12. Has a movie ever made you cry? Title? 13. Have you ever secretly taken money...

Photo by Nik Shuliahin 💛💙 on Unsplash . What is healthy friendship/relationship? Now I wouldn't start by giving dictionary definitions or introducing extensive vocabulary. The post on true friendship resonates significantly with this post. However, opposite of these relationships can be termed 'dysfunctional'. Where do Toxic Relationships Fall? There's no room for toxicity in good health, they are mutually exclusive. It's been said that real love cannot happen in toxic relationships, therefore progression into love is somewhat impossible. At the initial stage of love, obsession may come in; now subsequently even during toxicity there's no love but obsession. 7 Signs of Unhealthy Friendships (What You Should Do) Co-dependency: I call this parasitic since one gives, the other only takes- get out. Dishonesty: If the relationship is full of lies- red flag, leave. Control: When one is trying to dominate- run away. Avoidance: Always avoiding conversations or brewe...

Everyone speaks about getting into spiced up relationships and how they don't want boredom in their friendships; like speaking alone would change it. Speaking may not change it, but that's why this post is for you. Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash There is nothing like an ecstatic friendship/relationship. This is what we want; despite subtle disputes, some greater than others, we want to feel great happiness and joy in togetherness.  How can You Experience this Happiness? Easy!!!  Know Your Friend(s) They are your friends and that's why this should be the easiest tip to perform. Apart from saving you from disappointment, knowing their likes and dislikes bring fun to another level. Are you wondering how? The next tip says it all.  Engage Them Based on What You Know This may seem very broad, virtually everything. But, not to overgeneralise this is also an easy key. What can you do? If you always want to have fun based on what they like, it would introduce boredom because...

Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash It was my friend's birthday and I can remember vividly that I didn't know what to wear even few hours to the time of his birthday party. I was chocked up with work and assignments. Like I said in a previous post [ here ], a true friend shows exceptional love which makes them go extra miles for you. I had to make sure I showed up for my very dear friend and pal, Prince Olugold . I must say that Olugold is a fantastic host, I was impressed. It took me to Iyabo Ojo's hosting on an episode of RHOLagos available on Showmax .  The tips I'd be giving today would be based on how the birthday party went from my point of view, both bad and good, so it's basically storytelling in form of narration. At the end there would be a "Random Gist Segment": Narration without specific title. What Should You Do? Show Up for Them:   Why wouldn't you show up! You are supposed to be a friend!! Olugold's party was lit and that was because ...