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After reading a post from this blog about Healthy Friendships and Relationships , I decided to share my story. My name is Jumoke! This is my life in words. Photo by Stormseeker on Unsplash   LOVE OR NOT? I grew up in a home without love This won't be my portion, I swore My  mother was always broken and shattered She cried and suffered- that is all I can remember I promised to never fall in love So my heart would never be torn My mistake was to think it didn't matter as I got older He came into my life when I lacked a friend and partner I forgot my childhood take on love In ignorance, I gave it a chance, and what? My fear became reality with tears and scars The dotting young man became a dictator and heartless ruler I had made a mistake by considering love! This was her mistake, my mom My life was the epitome of my mother's She had endured life to protect her only daughter I failed her! I failed her!! I thought. What if my mistake wasn't loving? What if it was a mistake...

You are who you are ! Until you accept that, you will be a shadow of yourself. You are who you are! Until you believe that, anyone can hover you around. You are who you are! Until you see that, you are not living. Photo credit- filadendron Life is short and consists of day-to-day interactions; some are pleasant, others maybe not be as pleasurable. Despite these occurrences, your decision to get the best out of life is the priority. Your interactions with people and things influence your lifestyle positively or negatively. Image- Unsplash The sooner you realize that opinions don't make you who you are, the better. Nevertheless, being around people who understand you and have your best interest at heart goes a long way in building you because there is nothing like a supportive company . A judgemental company would find faults and may be prone to chastise you before considering correction. Image- Unsplash "You should feel good and enjoy every bit of life, smile more, frown less,...

There are a million reasons why you should opt for an elevated and healthier lifestyle train! We would discuss a few and grow together. It is almost impossible to have the same lifestyle as 4 years ago as t he world is in a post-covid-19 phase after the pandemic in 2020.   Now back to the business of making you better-   Why You Should Improve Your Lifestyle- 1. To Lengthen Your Lifespan. Adopting fresh and healthier habits; from exercise to a healthy diet, or giving up smoking; leads to a longer and stress-free life. 2. To Improve Your Mental and Physical Health. An improved lifestyle routine creates a soothing aura. This influences physical relaxation as well as mental and emotional stability. 3. To Aid Stress Relief. Many have embraced a hectic way of life which can be detrimental. A change would reduce the amount of stress one experiences. 4. To Make You Happier. Implementing a positive change in your regular conduct would result in happier life full of achievements. Mind ...

Stress can never be ruled out of the world, but it feels like Nigeria offered to carry the biggest portion. What a generous country! The news we hear everyday and the hardship faced by the populace in a country like Nigeria is more than enough to cause emotional and physical tension; stress. What matters is how well one is able to handle this stress. In this post I would talk about easy ways to manage and get relieved from stress still maintaining it's entertaining quality. 9 Tips to Stress Management Make time for Hobbies & Fun: Engaging in things you enjoy is a sure way to feel good, thereby relieving stress. These could be playing board games, reading, watching movies, crocheting, etc. Exercise:  This is important in mood improvement and relaxation. However consistency is key for good results, no matter how little, it is better than none. Start with achievable plans and goals- 20mins walk or jog everyday would make a difference. Eat Well, Limit Alcohol and Stimulants: Stimul...

It is becoming mandatory in the society to have a classy presence. However, contrary to most perceptions, adopting a classy or elegant personality does not solely depend on wealth; there are other necessities that are equally important. We'd discuss them below. Design by Me   I have divided this into three major segments: 1. Health: This covers all most aspects regarding your body. Your health has a major role to play in elegance. The few tips listed below would help. Healthy Diet . From fruits and vegetables to other healthy meals. Ensure balance diet no matter how little the meal may be. Clean Lifestyle . Regular bath, regular brushing, regular body rubbing, clean clothes. You must pay  attention to these. Nice Smell . From fresh breath to nice body smell, you  can't ignore. There are outstanding cheap perfumes too. Cherished Skin . I'm not a fan of 'time-wasting' routines and if you want to work on budget, I don't advice you to. However, affordable skin flou...

Photo by Nik Shuliahin 💛💙 on Unsplash . What is healthy friendship/relationship? Now I wouldn't start by giving dictionary definitions or introducing extensive vocabulary. The post on true friendship resonates significantly with this post. However, opposite of these relationships can be termed 'dysfunctional'. Where do Toxic Relationships Fall? There's no room for toxicity in good health, they are mutually exclusive. It's been said that real love cannot happen in toxic relationships, therefore progression into love is somewhat impossible. At the initial stage of love, obsession may come in; now subsequently even during toxicity there's no love but obsession. 7 Signs of Unhealthy Friendships (What You Should Do) Co-dependency: I call this parasitic since one gives, the other only takes- get out. Dishonesty: If the relationship is full of lies- red flag, leave. Control: When one is trying to dominate- run away. Avoidance: Always avoiding conversations or brewe...