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  Photo by Kevin Gent on Unsplash . In 1900, the Benin Empire had been conquered by the British and was renamed 'Nigeria' as suggested by Flora Shaw in an article in The Times of London on January 8, 1897. Just before the defeat, there was a clan of personae non gratae, unaccepted outcasts whose actual name is yet to be known. What makes historians and archeologists inquisitive about this tiny bit of history? The clan started when a brother and sister went into exile in 1830 to avoid shame and death. A serene family, living in the middle of nowhere took them in thinking they were a couple- that was the impression they gave. The siblings committed incest, a taboo ( awua ) in the Benin culture. Esewie (the sister) was pregnant for a male child- Ogiemién. She died immediately after childbirth. Meanwhile, Degbueyi (the brother) kissed the dust a few days after their flee as though the punishment for their  awua  followed him. Ogiemién, however, grew up with the kind family a...

Everyone speaks about getting into spiced up relationships and how they don't want boredom in their friendships; like speaking alone would change it. Speaking may not change it, but that's why this post is for you. Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash There is nothing like an ecstatic friendship/relationship. This is what we want; despite subtle disputes, some greater than others, we want to feel great happiness and joy in togetherness.  How can You Experience this Happiness? Easy!!!  Know Your Friend(s) They are your friends and that's why this should be the easiest tip to perform. Apart from saving you from disappointment, knowing their likes and dislikes bring fun to another level. Are you wondering how? The next tip says it all.  Engage Them Based on What You Know This may seem very broad, virtually everything. But, not to overgeneralise this is also an easy key. What can you do? If you always want to have fun based on what they like, it would introduce boredom because...

Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash It was my friend's birthday and I can remember vividly that I didn't know what to wear even few hours to the time of his birthday party. I was chocked up with work and assignments. Like I said in a previous post [ here ], a true friend shows exceptional love which makes them go extra miles for you. I had to make sure I showed up for my very dear friend and pal, Prince Olugold . I must say that Olugold is a fantastic host, I was impressed. It took me to Iyabo Ojo's hosting on an episode of RHOLagos available on Showmax .  The tips I'd be giving today would be based on how the birthday party went from my point of view, both bad and good, so it's basically storytelling in form of narration. At the end there would be a "Random Gist Segment": Narration without specific title. What Should You Do? Show Up for Them:   Why wouldn't you show up! You are supposed to be a friend!! Olugold's party was lit and that was because ...

A true friend is hard to get so we may question the state of our relationship with friends. Detecting true friendship is probably one of the most difficult things to get right. But it is not impossible. At least not if you adhere to the tips in this blog post. You would also know whether you are a true friend or a mere company. Photo by Felix Rostig on Unsplash True friendship is a relationship built on the foundation of mutual respect, love, and gratitude; it is 'you and a partner (not necessarily intimate) who exhibits':- Sincerity on Every Occasion Dishonesty on its own is a reprimanded attribute anywhere and every time, how much more in friendship. True friends would tell you the truth always; the best they should do is sugarcoat it so it doesn't sound offensive, but not in every case. Their opinions, thoughts, and suggestions must be genuine and from the heart. Trust me when I say you want to see the end, you wouldn't expect the twist.   Respect For You and Your C...