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Sometimes we wish for the impossible, but, wishing for a friendship to last forever shouldn't be categorized under this. Or should it? ( iStock ) For a moment, a period of ignorance, I thought all relationships would last forever. However getting older, as my little inexperienced brain saw behind the shadow of life cast by childhood innocence, the thought vanished. Breakup is quiet painful, some more than others and according to Burna boy's song- Last last... it may be inevitable, be it friendship or more intimate relationships . Let's talk about me , 'my breakup experiences' may be a more suitable topic. This Person Aired Me Just Like That!!!😭 Photo by mskathrynne Were we friends or just schoolmates? We were definitely friends, maybe we weren't and it was just a false perception. Whichever the case, I thought we were friends. To be honest I've had quite a number of breakups but I don't feel responsible...I'm always me ...unapologetic (I ma...

Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash It was my friend's birthday and I can remember vividly that I didn't know what to wear even few hours to the time of his birthday party. I was chocked up with work and assignments. Like I said in a previous post [ here ], a true friend shows exceptional love which makes them go extra miles for you. I had to make sure I showed up for my very dear friend and pal, Prince Olugold . I must say that Olugold is a fantastic host, I was impressed. It took me to Iyabo Ojo's hosting on an episode of RHOLagos available on Showmax .  The tips I'd be giving today would be based on how the birthday party went from my point of view, both bad and good, so it's basically storytelling in form of narration. At the end there would be a "Random Gist Segment": Narration without specific title. What Should You Do? Show Up for Them:   Why wouldn't you show up! You are supposed to be a friend!! Olugold's party was lit and that was because ...

This would be a short summary of my friendship. My criteria for choice of friends may differ from yours, but they all revolve around the same thing which is who we are. I don't know about you, but I can't just call a person my friend after the first day we meet; there has to be a concrete foundation before the word 'friend' can be his/her adjective. I wouldn't talk about how I choose my friends now, but for that [ click here ]. I would only talk about my personal experience in friendship and I'd focus on a particular clique from my secondary school and we still exist. Meet us First First I would start by introducing what I'd describe as a personality check [*names are fictional but identities are true]. Jephen was best at keeping malice and he even boasted about it once or twice, how ridiculous and hilarious. Nmakiro was gentle, but his gentility faded away and it could have been a smart camouflage from the onset, who knows? He became the baddest after Jep...

Photo credit- Anton Vierietin To be honest, there are times we just need everyone's attention on us. Whether we just got new clothes, have a crush and want them to notice us, or maybe you spent hours on your makeup and you need complements, the list is endless. I'd give a personal illustration at the end of this. Let's dig in, shall we? Be Unique: I mean, that's the whole point. Show yourself for what you are because that is something no one else can, not a single person amongst the billions in the world. Have a Signature: Finding your signature may be the difficult, but, all you need to do is relax your body and let your mind do the thinking. It could be your style, approach, scent, etc. Remember Penelop Featherington in Bridgerton ? Trust me you could never miss her with her different shades of yellow. Look Elegant: You should never undermine your look. Mind you, elegance doesn't have to be extravagant. Be Observant: You must know where you are and the people aro...

Photo by Wasa Crispbread on Unsplash To a degree I'm skeptical about friendships, heartbreaks are real! Before I call someone my friend , there must have been deliberations by my brain cells and they must have seen the person fit. Yours doesn't have to be the same, however, reading this should reduce the risks you'd have of disappointments in any kind of relationship.  How I Choose my Friends- My Values Remain Unshaken:  The moment my values begin to repel you friendship is out of the question. I wouldn't throw away my values in the name of friendship. Some may call it pride; I'd rather be proud. Quick Character Study: If I notice you are not ready to change, you cannot move at my pace, you do things I can't live with (morally), friendship is unworkable. Ensure they are not Parasites: Parasitism is a very big red flag and I don't stay where any reddish flag casts shadow how much more... Friendship should go both ways, give and take policy. Determine What I...